Dear lil Miss ‘twenti-free’

This is your year. Year 22 was life changing. You faced many obstacles that took you out of the shell you kept yourself in. You made good and bad decisions. You had your fair share of mistakes, disappointment and heartbreaks. But guess what…. It’s a part of the process. You are growing. You are adulting. And in order to grow you have to feel growing pains.

There’s nothing you can do to prevent the growing pains, it’s natural, but what you can do is decide to release the things that are not good for you.

So during your 23rd year… The year you are ‘twenti-free’, may you be free from:

  • The things that you have been holding on to for a very long time
  • The hurt and pains that you have alowed to destroy you
  • The thoughts and opinions of others about you
  • The doubts and fears
  • The insecurities
  • Your limitations
  • Your comfort zone
  • Letting things bother you and getting the best of you
  • Sadness, depression
  • The disappointments that still bothers you
  • Toxic relationships
  • Needing other people’s attention
  • Blaming yourself and guilt
  • Being unassertive

This is your year, beautiful. This is your time to make the right choices in your life. Choices for yourself. It’s time to put yourself as a priority. 😊

Self care is a must. Don’t let others get you down. Don’t let unnecessary problems get the best of you.

You are too precious, you are a queen. You can’t allow anything to destroy you this year. Your problems and difficulties should build you. Your struggles should make you better. Your disappointment and setbacks should teach you to move forward and move along with your life.

Life. goes. on!!!! It’s not stagnant. So in order to have a productive life, you have to keep moving.

It’s time to let by gones be by gones. They can’t help you. It’s time to look towards your future…. You are in 2020, get that vision. An optimistic, clear and precise vision that you’ll overcome anything life throws at you and your goals and dreams will come through because you are going to leave your comfort zone and work towards them.

This is not going to be easy, lil Miss but its possible.

You need to remember the most important thing in your life this year and make it your TOP PRIORITY … Your walk with God. You are seeing another year because of Him. You are where you are this present moment because of Him. Things may not always be fine and dandy but remember He will never leave nor forsake you. That was His promise.

You’ll be great this year. You just have to believe and work. You can’t have faith without action. Never forget you are beautiful and worth it. People may not get you but that’s fine, you are unique. Unique is fun, normal is boring.

Take charge of your life. May your choices be wise. Continue shining your light. Keep on being good to others, don’t expect anything in return.

Goodness and mercy will continue to follow you. Soar like the eagles. Be free and continue to wear your crown… You are a Queen (Your name says it)Ω…Ω„ΩŠΩƒΨ©.πŸ‘‘

Happy birthday Queen!!!! You are 23! You are twenti-free!!! πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰

-January 8, 2020

What 2019 taught me

Boy oh boy!!!

2019 was no joke!

I started the year on a good note. Regular new year prayers and all.

But little did I know 2019 had alot in stored for me.

I’ve learnt so many lesson that changed me in the best way. I found myself getting stronger in the Lord, my faith getting stronger, my tolerance getting better.

I saw myself growing and maturing. No lies!!!

I mean I could say it was the worst year ever. But to be honest with you, of my 22 years on planet earth, 2019 was the best.

I had my downfalls but they made me better. I had many setbacks but the comebacks were greater. I had many shortcomings that I overcame. Many hurdles that I jumped.

One thing I’m sure of is that I have found a support system. One that I can rely on. One who knows how to help me be strong. One who has my back.πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

Of course I’ll always be grateful to God. If it wasn’t for Him. I wouldn’t have made it thus far and in the position I’m in at this moment.


I’m not gonna lie to you. This was the year I proved God for myself. My spritual life was shaky for the first part of the year. I was putting so many things before Christ. I wasn’t really going to church. I was hardly praying, fasting was rare for me. My spritual life was in shambles.πŸ˜”

I never said this to my family or friends.

But hearing people experiences and having your own are two different things. I mean, I would hear people talk about how good God is and how life is without Jesus versus how life is with Him. I got to know God for myself.

During this dark time in my spiritual life. Alot of things happened to me, I performed the worst academically, I had to stop working, I had financial issues. It felt like my journey here in China was being tested. Like the devil wanted to cut my time short here. But God said no. Mercy said no.

I’ve never prayed the way I had for the past few months. I’ve never held so much faith. I mean I’ve seen rejections, I’ve heard people tell me no and that was where disappointment stepped in. But God kept me through. When I was disappointed, He gave me the strength to carry on. (I really love the song ‘You are my strength’ for this reason)

There were times I would start to complain but my support system would be right behind me to say, ‘Stop, Christians should never complain’… Thanks mom

The strange thing is at the beginning of the year, I said that I’d like to have a better relationship with God. I don’t really do new year resolutuons but that was mine this year. Although my way of getting close to God was rough, it improved my relationship with Him. My walk with Christ is still a work in progress but I know He will pick me up when I fall.

Other lessons I’ve learnt:

1. I’ve fully learnt to distinguish friends from acquaintances.

At the beginning of the year, I hosted a birthday dinner. And trust me, it was alot of people. Throughout the year, I realized my circle was getting smaller and smaller. Ain’t gonna lie, that’s a big blessing for me. πŸ˜πŸ˜‰

2. I have learned to be content with my own company.

3. I’m also getting to know my position on my ‘friends’ lives. But I won’t talk about that. (It’s a work in progress)

4. I have learned the art of keeping my mouth shut and putting in more action.

5. To be calm in all situations. (this is still a work in progress)

6. To step out of my comfort zone. πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜…

This year was a splendid year. I’m waiting patiently for the blessings and victories that are coming in 2020. Also, the lessons.

Today’s thought: ‘Everything you go through in life has a lesson… Pay attention.’ ~Meleca Williams

Thanks for reading, I hope my experience, testimony, story or lesson will inspire someone to stay close to Jesus. Also, He will take you out of your darkest situations.

I love you all, Merry Christmas when it comes. πŸŽ„β€οΈ

Next time 😘😘


Things change… People change

It’s something I have been repeating to myself for the past few months.

The ones we’ve once called friends, we’ve outgrown them. The things we used to do, we get tired of doing it. The places we used to go, no longer have the desire to go there.

Things can’t always be the same. Why can’t things change for the better and not the worst? πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€”

It’s life I guess, can’t always get the good part of it. You have to taste the bitter, unfair, hard side of life.

It sucks, yes it does.

But you know what I’ve realized for the past few months, that life’s changes, whether good or bad, is God’s plan for our lives.

We can’t always have a smooth sailing, easy breezy life. Where’s the ‘fun’ in that huh?πŸ™ƒ

How will we learn if we remain on the same level? How will we grow if we remain in the same position? How will we move forward if we are rooted?

We have to move in order to grow and in order to grow, there needs to be a change. Just like puberty.πŸ‘ΆπŸ»πŸ‘§πŸ»πŸ‘©πŸ»πŸ‘©πŸ»β€πŸŽ“πŸ‘©πŸ»β€βš•οΈπŸ‘°πŸ»πŸ€°πŸ»πŸ€±πŸ»πŸ‘΅πŸ» Yh, you get the gist πŸ˜‰

The good thing is about changes is that we have control over the influence it has on our lives.

We can determine if we want to change for the better or for the worst.

Have you ever made pancakes and flipped them just to see the side that was down got burnt? πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈ

The perfect pancake you wanted to make got ruined. It no longer looks apetizing.

That’s how life feels when things doesn’t go your way. You feel like you have lost control. You don’t know how to go about the change. So instead you deal with it negatively. That power you had to control the changes in life was used in the wrong way.

One thing I have to say, something I have experienced. Expect anything. You don’t know what tomorrow holds and God’s plans for your life. You still don’t even know His method of taking you to His plans.

Trust me, I’ve been learning to keep this mindset. But what I’ve realized is the few times I think this way, my trust in God gets stronger. Because I may not know what His plans are but I trust and believe that’s its going to work out for my good.

So with that, I then learn to embrace my change. I may have lost some things but I take the opportunity to prepare for when it’s time to gain.

As the Bible, A time to lose and a time gain. πŸ™ŒπŸ»

When we have dropped off the excess weight or the unnecessary luggage, we are making space for the essentials for our destination.

So love the changes that life brings.

I love saying this:

Don’t just go through the changes… Grow through them and most importantly, live through them.

Life Good, Love God. ❀️

Today’s thought: “If you never take a step forward, you will always remain in the same place.”

Life ain’t a piece of cake

I love to bake and most of all I enjoy eating pastries. There’s something about the ingredients coming together to make the most amazing and delicious pastries. Like the bitter cocoa powder, mixed with sugar and other ingredients to create fugdy moist, sweet, rich brownies or chocolate cake. (Thinking about this makes me want brownies 😒)

Life on the other hand can be sweet but it can also be as bitter like the raw unsweetened cocoa powder. There are days when everything is smooth and we have our way but then there are also rough days, when everything is out of place and you can’t seem to have control.

It’s easy to enjoy a piece of cake. As you bite into it and the rich flavours hit your pallette, you find yourself in a different world. You dont care about your weight or health for a second. The fact that you are enjoying that slice of cake is enough for you.β€οΈπŸ˜‹

It’s hard to enjoy life that way. There are so many things that can hinder us from making the most of life. Like fear, doubt, lack of confidence, finances, and the list goes on and on and on. We can’t just cut into life, like the cake and dig in. There are so many things we think of before we indulge or make up our minds.

But one thing I’m learning about life is that, it’s a process. We have to make mistakes, we have to fall, we have to be disappointed, we have to lose people, we have cry sometimes, we have to reach out for help sometimes, we have to fail, and the list continues. But at the end of the day all the failures, all the disappointments, all the tears, sweat and blood will be worth it.

We may not be able to enjoy life like a piece of cake but it worth living.

This is the my first of many blogs. Have a great day.

Live good… Love God

Today’s thought: “I wanna live, not just survive”